Ah, one of my favorite quotes, most often abbreviated to “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”:

“Heaven hath no rage like love to hatred turned, nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.” — William Congreve, The Mourning Bride

That shortened form keeps part of the original thought intact, but it overlooks another important idea: there is no one we despise more than the one we once loved the most.

Something every divorce attorney knows, and the best make a fine living on that understanding. The rest of us can learn from it, too. Why do I hate him so much? He shouldn’t have this hold on me anymore.

Mobile mit Herzen - der Ansto zur Liebe, PartnerschaftBecause the pendulum has swung. Once upon a time, you would have jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge for him. Now, you want to push him off it.

There’s good news about pendulums. They swing to one extreme, and then to another. Then the arc of the swing is smaller, until finally, there’s no more momentum. Unless, of course, something happens to start the swing all over again.

We’ve all seen that happen, and if you pay attention, it usually happens while the pendulum still has a pretty good arc. Once it’s stopped, it’s hard to start things up again.

A thought that has application both for you who dream of the day the passion will end and you who dream of the day it will begin again with the one who’s got the power over your pendulum.

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15 Comments on “the power of momentum

  1. I’m embarrassed to say I had no idea there was an unabbreviated version of “hell hath no fury…” I love this original, it says so much more about human emotion. I always thought the shortened version was a little sexist, as if women were somehow more rage-filled or evil when rejected. It feels somehow much less insulting in it’s original form, but no less powerful.

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    • I’m with you. I had no idea there was more to the quote until I chanced on the entire thing a few years ago, and I don’t think most people are aware of it. I’d really like to read the entire play to know the context. Put that on my goals for the coming year!

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