Once I was grocery shopping with my friend Pam and her then four-year-old daughter Macy, who was nearly jumping out of the shopping cart seat in excitement at every turn.
“Ooooo!” she’d say, “I want THAT!” Another few steps, “And that! and that!” In vain, Pam tried telling her they didn’t have the money to buy all those things. I decided to step in.
“You know Macy, there are lots of things I’d like to have, too,” I began. “I’d really like a new dress, and some shoes to go with it. Maybe some earrings. But I can’t afford it right now, so I just put it on a list for someday.”
“But I want THAT!” Macy insisted.
Pam sighed. “There are lots of things I want, too, and things Daddy would like,” she said, “but we can’t have everything we want.”
“I’d really like some new makeup,” I went on, maybe pushing it a little. “And a new car. Wow, I’d really like a new car. One with air conditioning.”
Macy was looking skeptical. With her eyes narrowed, she put her hands on her hips and stared at us. “What you two need,” she said sternly, “is a piggybank.”
We burst out laughing. Macy didn’t get anything she wanted that day, but she was the star of evening as we told the story again and again.
Since that time I’ve thought of that shopping trip and realized something rather important: Macy knew about saving money. As frustrated as Pam may have been with her daughter’s demands, when push came to shove, the kid had the answer. Mom was doing something right.
I wonder how many times parents get fed up with their children’s words and actions and wonder if they’re doing any good at all. They see other kids in the neighborhood seemingly doing so much better, maybe, or their nieces and nephews are the family stars. Is anything getting through?
It’s getting through. It’s all getting through. It may seem futile at the moment, but the words — and actions — are sinking in.
When I was about five, my parents decided to teach me a little about money. I’d been getting an allowance, a small amount, all in pennies. They brought me to the kitchen table, where there was a pile of pennies on one side, and a dollar bill on the other.
I was told there were 100 pennies, which were worth the same as the dollar bill. I could have either the 100 pennies or the dollar bill, but it was important I understood they were worth the same.
No problem. Got it. Give me the dollar bill. I’d never had currency before.
My parents were certain that in my fascination with that dollar bill, I’d missed the lesson. I hadn’t. I’d grasped it quite quickly, in fact.
You never know what’s going on your child’s mind, but they’re hearing every word. That’s a comfort and a warning, I guess.
You can’t be there to make decisions for them, and they’ll make some mistakes, regardless of all your good words. But you’re laying a foundation and they’ll be building the house, so make it a good foundation.
Because it never stops making a difference. You never stop making a difference.
Photo Credits: (Piggy Bank Manager) © BCFC — Bigstock; (Two Girls) © zagorodnaya — Fotolia
Reblogged this on Life In The Fast Lane — and commented:
Excellent post. It reflects so accurately how a child wants everything they see. Over time, they learn the value of money and become more selective.
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Thank you! And thank you for the re-blog. 🙂
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Hi Belinda how is the blogging getting on. I have been busy with http://www.onsoft.co.za for the last few months. Will you take a look at the blog articles and let me know what you think?
Many thanks
Ryan
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I’m happy to look at them….give me a day or two, I have a flu bug right now, but I will get to it!
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Ryan,
I was really impressed with the blog articles. Once upon a time I worked in the IT dept of my county offices and the blog topics seem relevant, insightful and intelligent. Great work!
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Thanks Belinda for those kind words of support. I am busy setting up a new site that supports the IT consulting business I am starting up. Still lots of work to be done both on the site and the business.
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Too bad I live so very far from you! I could use some IT help.
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If you need help, we can always use TeamViewer
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It’s been a few years since that message! Things have worked out for me, but thank you for the offer.
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Yes, It has been a long, long time. I now run my own IT company. I was looking at my old posts and thought of reconnecting.
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Glad you did. Hope you are doing well. It sounds like your business is keeping you busy (based on your response to another post). take care!
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Belinda,
Do me a favour and go and look at the articles I write for an IT company. The URL is http://www.onsoft.co.za
Please, let me know what you think.
Ryan
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Happy to do so. I’m moving this weekend so it may be Monday before I get to it.
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Hi Belinda. Trust that you are well. I have been out of touch for a very long time. Started my own IT business, http://www.abacon.co.za and working more hours in a day that I thought possible.
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