Dream Job From Hell

The dream job from hell, was how my roommate described it, and to this day I find the description fits. Time hasn’t changed the fear and disgust that went with working with that man, in fact, it’s only intensified it. By the same token, I’m grateful for what may have been my one chance to travel overseas.

Before the DJfH, I had had an internship at a local TV station, and unlike so many such jobs, I actually got to do some real-life work there. Most interns at the other stations in town were relegated to menial and demeaning tasks, occasionally called upon to help someone in the field if there was a particularly distasteful job to do.

But I got to write, which I loved, and I learned to write concisely. A five-second promo spot takes special skill, and I became very good at it. There are numerous factors that go into writing that sort of thing, selecting the compelling stories, the rate at which the anchor delivering the spot speaks, and the quirks of the individual anchors (one, for example, couldn’t start a sentence with a word beginning with “W” — which is problematic for five-second promos. If you pay attention, you’ll hear so many start like this: “Will your taxes…?” or “Who is planning…?”).

My supervisor took note, and when he started his own business, working with television stations in Europe, I jumped at the job offer he made. Of course I’d been looking for full-time, permanent work for over a year when he spoke with me, and the combination of so badly wanting to work in my field and the glamour of traveling overseas blinded me to a few, in retrospect, glaring problems.

First, he had a drinking problem. A bad one. Second, and this one almost got me arrested in France once, he had a drug problem. A bad one.

And third, fidelity in marriage meant nothing to him, and unbeknownst to me until we were on foreign soil, he expected me to jump in bed with him as soon as we were in a new city. Which wasn’t about to happen. He was a good-looking man, but I say that with distaste, because it led him to expect he could manipulate women, which he did. Repeatedly.

I quickly refused to work with him, and quit that job. Soon, however, a colleague I trusted came up with an alternative plan, one that would keep me from working directly with this man but would still allow me to travel some.

That lasted a fairly short time. It simply wasn’t going to work, and the company was floundering to boot.

Still, I got to see Athens, with my hotel room overlooking the transparent and brilliant blue sea. I spent time in Nice, Marseilles and Paris and fumbled with the French I’d studied for six years (I never did get particularly good at understanding others speak it, but I was much better with my own foreign language speaking skills after this misadventure). I saw Hamburg and Munich and cathedrals throughout Germany

More important than all of that, I learned a lot of discretion and any number of valuable truths about life that some people, I’ve discovered, never figure out. I know the signs of trouble with married men, and I know nothing is as glamorous as it seems.

And I learned a lot about people by getting to know them in other cultures. The light shines on different areas when you’re not in your comfort zone, and you come to appreciate the sometimes hidden qualities in those around you.

I wouldn’t do it all over again, but I’ve learned the worst experiences can have solid results, things that shape and change you and make you a better person as the years go by.


Suitcase

Image Credits: (TV set and Eiffel Tower) ยฉ BigStock; Passport ยฉ stock.adobe.com

Sizzling, Fizzling Love

One lazy Fourth of July my roommate Wendy and I spent the evening at her friend Carole’s home, camped out on Carole’s deck where we had the perfect view of the city’s fireworks display. Carole’s husband graciously agreed to handle the food while we oohed and aahed.

It started out, like so many such presentations, to be not so much the fanfare promised but more of a sparkler-like fizzle.

“For this kind of excitement I could have gone out with Bill,” I grumbled, referring to a less-than-dynamic man Wendy and I knew from church. Bill, while nice, was notorious for his, shall we say, surprising ideas for dates. For example, he’d been invited to join us that night for a barbeque, but suggested instead that we go shopping.

No sooner had my mild complaining begun than the show picked up a little speed. Wendy, taking her cue from my comment, began comparing each burst of color with one of her past romances.

“That was Todd,” she said. “A never-ending explosion of excitement.”

Or, “Just like Jerry. Completely green with jealousy.”

Carole piped in when one firecracker, sounding like it would outdo all the previous, turned out to be a dud.

“My first marriage was like that,” she said, laughing. “A lot of promise, then…nothing.”

“That’s Danny!” I cried out, with the rocket that held a couple dozen small bursts of yellow and orange. “Lots of bright ideas, no follow through.”

I don’t remember if we ran out of men, quips or fireworks first, but we didn’t stop laughing for over an hour. Carole’s husband, who was graciously grilling and bearing with our comments about his gender, brought over our burgers.

“Aw, honey,” Carole said. “All the fireworks together aren’t as wonderful as you are.”

“You’re drunk,” he said wryly.

“On love!” Carole replied. In fact, we were only punch drunk; we hadn’t had a sip of alcohol.

Image Credits: Fireworks, header ยฉ Lukas Gojda–stock.adobe.com; Fireworks, heart ยฉ gonin–stock.adobe.com

That Cloudy Day Feeling

When I was in my twenties, I mentioned to the psychologist I was seeing at the time how I loved cloudy days, thunderstorms and overcast skies. I’m sure my memory has exaggerated his response, but I seem to recall his face leapt out of a bored stupor into over-animated eagerness.

“Let’s look at that,” he said. “Why do you think you would like bad weather better?”

Bad weather? I just said this was my preference, that I loved it. I think it’s good weather.

chili

“I like it because it feels cozy to me,” I said. “It reminds me of a pot of chili on the stove, a good book by your chair, and…” I hesitated.

He waited a moment. “And…?”

“I like long-sleeved clothing better.” For some reason, I was embarrassed to say that last sentence, perhaps because it clearly confused him.

“Do you feel safer in long sleeves?” I recall him asking.

“I look better in long sleeves,” I said. “It’s classier, more polished.” Never was I more aware of fashion than in my twenties.

He paused. “Will you consider this,” he said (didn’t ask), “you’re frightened of the world, and you prefer any excuse to be inside.”

I like cloudy days, and he was calling me anti-social. In all my insecurities, with all my questioning of myself and my value, I never doubted he was wrong about that correlation. I simply find clouds comforting.

Comforting, majestic, remarkable. So simple, yet few things in nature can be as beautiful or awe-inspiring. The way the light filters through them, their ethereal nature.

Throw in a tornado, and I’m terrified. I have my limits.

I have no idea why I prefer what is generally considered less desirable weather. It’s not that I don’t value a sunny, breezy spring day, in fact, bring it on, I’d love to get some fresh air flowing through my place. In practical terms, yes, I prefer “good weather” in many ways. Certainly a much better driving experience.

But don’t tell me I have issues because of it. I have my problems, sure, but I’m basically a social person. Are there days when I prefer the company of my cats? Yes, but they don’t string together.

image of open antique book on wooden table with glitter overlay.

Just sometimes nothing I want more than to sit on the sofa, wearing my turtleneck sweater, reading a good book and waiting for the chili to stew a little longer…until it’s just right.

And seeing the clouds pile up high.


Image Credits: book–tomertu-stock.adobe.com; bowl of chili–Blessings Captured-stock.adobe.com; cloudy skies–evannovostro-stock.adobe.com

Happiness Is…Acts of Kindness

Over Labor Day weekend, a co-worker, Jennifer, received a late night call from her son. She was immediately worried when she saw his name on the phone, and hastily answered, only to hear a multitude of sirens in the background.

“What’s wrong? Tell me what’s happening!” She was standing straight up.

Her son hastened to assure her the family was all safe, but with regret he told her the shed in the backyard had burned down, and the fire had taken out part of his home.

The shed contained multiple things of value to the family, and among them were two things my colleague treasured: the family photo albums and her Snoopy collection, which she’d had since she was four. As you might guess, these photo albums contained pictures of her children when they were small, and now they were gone.

There was some good news a few days later. Two of the photo albums were salvageable, and one of them had some now much-treasured photos of her children. What’s more, a handful of SnoopySnoopys were saved. The latter happened when the crew hired to clear out the charred mess noticed this large collection, largely gone but still identifiable. The head of the crew said something to Jennifer’s son, and when he learned how valued this collection was, he told the other workers to halt and look for any Snoopys that could be saved.

A simple, yet meaningful, gesture.

I like to think Charles Schulz would have been touched by this story. Several years ago, while shopping at the local grocery store, the assistant manager commented on my t-shirt, which showed Lucy and Snoopy dancing. He told me of a time when he was little and he sent Charlie Brown–aka Charles Schulz–a valentine because he felt sorry that this cartoon character received no cards from his friends.

In return, Charles Schulz sent the boy a hand-drawn picture of Snoopy and Charlie Brown, with “thank you” written on the bottom.

“I still have it,” the assistant manager mused.

“Keep it!” I told him. Goodness knows how valuable something like that might be.

We hear how precious small acts of kindness can be, and these two stories reminded me that what may cost us very little can be prized by the recipient of our goodwill. So don’t hesitate to reach out. There are people in my world who have made a lifetime of difference, and I send silent thank-you’s to all of them.


Photo Credits: Photo Album ยฉ ulza–stock.adobe.com; Snoopy ยฉ Belinda O

The Snoopy doll pictured above is from my modest Peanuts collection.

Mimi Watches TV, Too

Several Caturdays ago, I displayed a picture of Walter watching “The Mary Tyler Moore Show.” Well, Mimi watches TV, too, although her tastes run more to this century. Granted, “Gilmore Girls” is early 21st century, but good television is good television. She was watching the show up close and personal until Walter caught her attention while he was chasing a flying bug. That’s when I was able to capture this picture of her. Like I’ve said before, she’s elusive when it comes to the camera.

Mimi GG

Image Credits: Cesar Catย ยฉย Belinda O, Paws in Heart,ย ยฉย bigstockphoto.com,