Category: Relationships

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Being Valued, Being Wooed: a letter to Madi

A co-worker once wistfully told me she’d married her husband because he picked her up at the airport, holding a bouquet of balloons and an engagement ring. “What else could I do?” she asked. The surprise proposal made her completely forget that a week before, when she was knocked out by a miserable cold, he’d expected her to join him for happy hour with … Read More Being Valued, Being Wooed: a letter to Madi

sibling revelry

Today I called my brother with some upsetting news. Once again, factors beyond my control were thwarting my plans to move forward. He was the only one who would fully understand how challenging it would be for me, because he’d been with me from the start of the events that led to the distress of today. My brother was there for me before I … Read More sibling revelry

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Heartbreak ‘Round the Bend

I got a surprise call from an old friend today. Surprise, because he called, and surprise, why he called. Todd* came into my life about 15 years ago when he began dating a friend of mine, Dani.* The two of them were inseparable for several years, seeming to bring out the best in each other and destined for a happy future. As time went … Read More Heartbreak ‘Round the Bend

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Cry First, and Water the Flowers

I just heard my friend Casey is getting a divorce. Casey is 29, and this is her second marriage. She has four children, one with her current husband, two with her previous and one from a brief relationship when she was just 15. She’s been in prison, is a recovering alcoholic and lost her three oldest children for a time because of those issues. … Read More Cry First, and Water the Flowers

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Over You

“You’re going to leave me alone at Christmas…” “You’ll be okay. You said you had to work that day. You’ll be too busy to notice I’m gone.” That’s not exactly how it would work, and we both knew it. I’d had it. I had gone out of my way to get you really thoughtful birthday gifts just a week before, even though you’d been … Read More Over You

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Hidden Truths, Secret Sorrows

“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.” ― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow Our face is a mask, sometimes opaque, sometimes transparent. Recently a friend of mine was taking an online test about reading emotions, and not doing too well. She was frustrated. I suspect the test was flawed … Read More Hidden Truths, Secret Sorrows

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Forgiveness

I had a secret, and I didn’t tell, because I was afraid you would reject me. That wasn’t fair. I should have given you a chance. Today I know it wouldn’t matter, because I know your heart is bigger than my faults. I wish I had trusted that before. I’m asking you to forgive me for my secret, and for keeping it from you. … Read More Forgiveness

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