Nothing is what it appears to be.

Ever been convinced something is true, only to discover there is, indeed, another logical explanation? I admit, it’s easier for me to point out this oh-so-human flaw in others, and I know a few people who routinely will stubbornly insist they are right, regardless of the possibility there is another way of looking at the situation.

Moments ago I was proven wrong about something that seemed so clear to me…okay, I knew my suggestions were off-the-wall, but there honestly was a logic to them. And who knows, in the future someone might say, “hey, she was right…I’ll be darned!” I’m not counting on it, but it has happened in the past.

I try not to judge others, and one of the biggest reasons why is this: we simply don’t have all the information. No matter how wise, sophisticated or informed you may believe yourself to be, you are not omniscient. You are limited in your view of the world by your experience.

One friend of mine practically spits if you mention Melania Trump.

Now, I’m not a fan of our president, never have thought he was anything but a buffoon. I can’t imagine being married to him (the thought of that makes me spit), and neither can my friend. Yet just because we see nothing desirable in the man doesn’t mean some other woman won’t find him attractive.

I hear the laughter — let me finish —

Seriously, while my friend thinks Melania married Donald strictly for his money, I say this: I don’t know the woman. I don’t know why she married him. I don’t know what he was like when he was courting her. You get my point. Maybe the money was the strongest draw, maybe not. I would guess she never genuinely anticipated being First Lady, and that’s a role with a high cost, so I have some sympathy for her. My friend does not; she thinks she got what she deserved.

That’s the kind of judgment I pray you never hear me make about another.

I was the victim of some harsh judgment several years ago,

and I lull myself to sleep many nights thinking how my accusers may have fallen in their pursuit of evidence of my non-existent wrongdoing. They spent a lot of time and money chasing after this information, and someone, somewhere along the line, must have said, “what the hell are you doing?” because they never dug up the dirt they were certain was within their grasp. There must have been enough misinterpreted data along the way for them to continue in this fruitless pursuit, and I imagine they fell victim to their own limited viewpoint when evaluating the facts.

Knowing human nature, and in particular, knowing the individuals involved, they never did give up believing I was guilty of some wrong-doing. Perhaps they are still waiting for me to trip up.

I’m not suggesting
Train Passengers

Each of us has our own unique view, our own experience to draw on.

we remain so open-minded we become gullible, victims of our own consideration. There is a point where we know enough to draw reasonable conclusions. It’s when we think we know more than we actually do that we’re most likely to judge others. The biggest danger is judging people who are more acquaintances than friends, or assessing situations in which we are dabblers, not experts.

Nothing is as it seems…so judge not, lest ye be judged.


Image Credits: (Blue Eyes) © JosefArt — Bigstock; (Crowd on Train) courtesy of Pixabay

10 Comments on “What You See…

  1. Really good post – and just as a side note, I love the picture of the people on the train. Their expressions…

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  2. This post is right on the mark. I’ve held beliefs for a long time – and have discovered they weren’t at all true. So much is habit and related to our upbringing.
    One of my latest themes has been “being open.” I think what’s great about that for me is that I’m open to seeing and learning new ways of thinking all the time. It challenges those stuck thoughts I have!
    Great writing, as always, Belinda. 🙂

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    • Thank you…I think this is something we all tend to do, and it’s understandable, but “being open” is a wonderful way to approach the world. It is far more compassionate and loving.

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  3. I wish all of us could “be open” about everything and everyone until more information is acquired. At one time one of our country’s greatest strengths was debate and discussion. We knew how to talk about issues and individuals in a dignified, respectful manner presenting our case and allowing someone else to advance theirs. That ship sailed. Conclusions are reached as soon as a subject is brought up, sides are drawn, etc. Maybe it is the instantaneous technology we enjoy that has rewired our brains to have to offer up a determination about people and things upon mention. We should await facts…but now we have alternative facts to contend with. Some folks are always going to be failures at admitting their premature conclusions were wrong but now it appears they can simply say they weren’t…wrong.

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    • What bothers me is all the cynicism and assumptions of the worst. People don’t want to be fools by believing the best in someone, so they believe the worst.

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