I’ve gotten used to making my own decisions, and managing their consequences. It’s what I expect out of my life, and I can’t imagine another way of living.
In recent years I’ve seen first hand what happens when a person is no longer in control of his or her life, when others control every aspect of it and let power overtake their better qualities. It’s frightening, insidious and happening every day, all around us.
It happens in jails and prisons. Clearly, there’s a reason the deputies and guards must be in control, but when the jail tells you when to use the bathroom and controls whether or not you have toilet paper, a big part of your humanity is taken away. Yes, these people have committed a crime, and some would say, “they’re getting what they deserve.” But jail and prison are meant for confinement from society, not beating one’s spirit until it is destroyed.
It happens, sometimes, between husbands and wives. Men who beat their wives, whose behavior is so erratic and unpredictable the women live in constant fear their simple comments will trigger a violent attack, have taken away a vital part of their spouse’s heart and mind. It doesn’t get better, not in the marriage. The women have to leave to regain their soul, and it takes a long time.
And it happens in some countries whose leaders make a mockery of human rights and dignity. Where you are born with infinite worth yet no one will ever let you fully express your own essential self.
Today, as Americans celebrate their independence, I am thankful for my rights to make my own decisions, whether wise or foolish, to explore my options in my choice of career and even hobby, to freely write what I choose on this blog.
I know many of you who read what I post here live in other countries, and it’s important to me you know I respect and admire many of the nations on this earth and the people who are loyal to them. Patriotism doesn’t mean you reject all others, for me, it’s an appreciation of what I have and a commitment to protect those rights.
God bless us, everyone.
Image Credits: (hands in jail) © zurijeta — Bigstock; (drawing of woman) © retroclipart — Bigstock; (globe) Pixabay; (fireworks) © Carlos Santa Maria — Fotolia
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Yes, we are so fortunate in this country. What you wrote was very profound. I related to it immediately with a family member who is controlled by his wife. She caused him to separate from his brother and daughter with her demands. I find it quite amazing because he used to be a stronger person.
Anyway, like you, I am in a place of making my own decisions. It can be stressful, scary and confusing, at times. But I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Thanks for such a wise post!
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Thank you! Yes, I mentioned men abusing women, but of course it happens the other way around as well. It’s a horrible problem either way. Thank God for freedom!
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Great Read Belinda!! The power to make decisions and choices takes a much larger contribution to ones autonomy. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
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Thank you for visiting my site 🙂
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Hello Belinda…you’re most welcome 🙂
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